Upcoming Projects! 

Life

I’ve been trying to post more on twitter and I’ve contacted a few bloggers to collaborate with or to write a post for their blog!

So far I’m in the middle of writing two guest posts on two different subjects and I’m awaiting to hear further responses from others.

There’s a few posts that are coming out on my blog which are schedualled, but if I’m not as active as normal it’s just because I’m trying to fit in all these projects & also spending time with little one!

If you’d like me to write a guest post on anything, or if you’d like to collab with me for a project feel free to drop me an email, I’d love to hear your ideas!

Louekai@hotmail.com

Lots of love,

Louise oxox 

Patience Is A Virtue..

Life

It’s ever so hard to be patient all the time.

Well.. You have no choice but the be patient with certain things.

Such as finding love, genuine love. Getting the job you’ve always wanted and maybe getting the qualifications you wanted.

But how frustrating is it having to wait for something you crave to have in your life right now?

It’s great to be positive, and it’s great to be patient. But some days you get a sense of panic that you haven’t got your life together, why haven’t you got all these things in place now? What have you been doing all this time.

This is how I feel right now.

Then I realise, 

I’m 20 years old. I have so much time stop panicking. Ok I have a child, doesn’t mean anything. He came early, that is all.

At the moment I’m craving love, but I’m conflicting in my brain telling myself wait until after university, and I also don’t want just anybody around my son. Just so many conflicting views spinning around my head.

Then I look back at the past, when I quit my last year of sixth form. Ok I have half a qualification. But I wouldn’t have to do 4 years at university of I would of just done the full second year.

All this panic and anxiety about my choices. But I am blessed.. Even though I don’t feel it.


Strangely enough, two of my friends and my brother feel this anxiety too. 

Debating to quit education, whether to just go straight into a job, craving love, etc.

They’re just looking at their choices.

The anxiety will pass. I think it’s just a test of the brain. If you are patient and stick to something (if you know it’s worth it and know you’re enjoying whatever it is your pursuing) then great things will come out of it.

Is anybody else getting anxious feelings about the future? 

Love,

Louise oxoxo

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Overthinking.

Life

Even though I write about positivity like I’m skipping through a field full of flowers, sometimes you can’t stop your mind overpowering your emotions.

Right now I’m wide awake, emotionally distraught over materialistic things. 

I’m anxious about the future, not doing enough for my son and my head is so full of things I need to sort out, I wish I could just move far away.

I keep telling myself “I will have my shit together once I finish university, I will have a car eventually, I will have a two bedroom house fully furnished and I will feel content with my life.” 

At this moment in time I don’t want to go and study, I want to stay in bed and not speak to anybody.

Every single day is repition. I wake up to baby, I go to sleep with baby. 

I never have time for myself and I don’t mind this when my mind is on a level, but sometimes I would love a full day and night off where I could just sleep and lounge all day. 

Breastfeeding doesn’t help as my son doesn’t take a bottle what so ever, and will refuse to have a sippy cup on the night which is my fault because I should of introduced a bottle here and there Of expressed milk, so he would be used to it. 

My anxiety at this moment is so over powering I can’t calm myself down. It’s awful when things get like this.

I have the urge to completely be by myself but that’s impossible being a single mum.

I’ve got a few projects I need to sort out regarding my blog. I might put these things on hold until I get myself straight.

I’ll probably be fine tomorrow, I don’t realise I’m this stressed until I’m wide awake at night destroying myself and nit picking at things I haven’t done and haven’t got compared to my friends and family.

I shudder at the thought of being with anyone because I’m so over protective of my son, but at the same time I crave for a happy family in the future. 

I can’t bring myself to build a relationship or go on dates, which is a clear indication that I’m not ready yet which is fine.
So many things spinning in my head. I just want a break.

I’m putting everything on hold and making my blog private for a while until my mind is better. I have to heal first so I can make authentic posts. 

There’s posts on schedule coming out.

Trying Not To Be The Judgemental Mom

Parenting

Before I had my little one I was so open minded. 

I still like to consider myself open minded, but some things especially when it involves children, completely blows my mind.

Or, if one mum makes a little comment about something I’m doing, my routine or breastfeeding (9/10 I’m sorry but it is always about breastfeeding!), or about why they do controlled crying and why I should, how co-sleeping is bad and why I shouldn’t pick up my son, the list goes on.. – Back to point – I’ll find myself nit picking or judging how they do things with their child.

And I hate doing that because I do believe that everyone brings up the way they want to bring their child up, with their knowledge, their morals and what they believe in.

I would consider myself as a really nature-earth mum aka hippie! 

I like to think of things biologically.

Biologically, I believe as mothers, we are meant to have our children close to us. They’ve been in the womb for 9 months which is cushy and cosy!

So it’s mind blowing to me when people – especially the older generation – are so quick to tell mothers to leave their baby when they are crying because ‘they’ll make a rod for their own back’ even though that newborn cannot fend for itself or even communicate.

I hate societal views on parenting it really does not make sense. 

As mothers we have instincts and we know what’s best for our children, so why are people so quick to tell us what they think is best for our child? 

There has been times where I have questioned the way I do things.

Am I being too soft? Will my child be more independent if I just did controlled crying for goodness sake. Maybe I am always picking him up, maybe I should wean him off breastfeeding he is over one now?

That is only because of other people’s comments. 

But I am telling you once I do deep research. Once I gather my evidence I’m prepared to justify myself In effective ways.

One of the main things I find myself being judgemental about (recently) is the disapline of children.

I mean I’m still finding the best way for disapline, but constantly hearing mothers shout at their child, or telling them to go away or constantly telling them “no, no, no” but not giving them any other attention really irritates my soul.

Of course there’s times when you have no choice but to say no. 

For example my son is fascinated by the oven. He’s also fascinated by plugs for goodness sake. 

So I have to tell him “no!” Because when I’ve said other things such as “ouch burny!” he will quickly poke it and blow his hand and smile so he thinks it’s a game, which is so cute but on a serious level it’s not funny because he could seriously get hurt.

Also seeing children in winter with no socks on in their pushchairs or without a blanket irritates me. There just is no need.. This is what I mean by trying not to be the judgemental mum I wish I could shut off that part of me.

I am not the perfect mum. I question myself daily and I lack confidence but doing research has helped my confidence and I feel like I’m doing an okay job with my little one.

I think everyone does a great job with their child, and everyone has to do what’s best for their family.

I hope no one is offended by this post!

Love,

Louise oxoxo

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Shedding Negativity and Removing Unhealthy People From Your Life.

Life

I hope you’re having a great day so far.

After some lazy days, I feel grounded and it really got me thinking about how I’ve changed as a person and how I view things now, compared to a few years ago.

As we get older I think we tend to not tolerate as much as we did when we were younger, naive and hopefull.

We all have instincts, but we never really follow our gut. Majority of the time when you have an off vibe with someone, feel like you can’t trust them you’re normally right. 

It’s harder with family because they’re blood. It’s harder to cut all ties with them, and if your family is anything like mine, they always suggest that family should stick together. But should they stick together if they’re toxic, self-centred and two faced about each other?

Before I left home and began my journey into mother hood, I would just believe what anybody would say. I did consider myself as very mature for my age, but I’d always give people chances and I would second guess my instincts for another persons perspective of that person.

Looking back now, even though I have no regrets, I can say that my instinct has always been accurate. If I feel funny about someone normally that person is someone who is going to cause trouble or drama in my life or turn out to be someone I can’t trust.

Also, when I was younger I used to hold grudges against people. Now, I simply do not want to waste time overthinking about the situation, to make myself even more annoyed and irritated of the outcome. There’s no logic in that. 

If I find myself to overthink about a situation where it involves someone, I will bite my tongue and get everything out when I’ve calmed down. So I nip it in the bud.

Sometimes in life it’s hard to get rid of negative people in your life, especially if you’re related or if you’ll constantly end up seeing this person frequently, but if they’re interfering, two faced, you could never trust them with your information and they are just negative people who like to talk negatively about other people, why would you associate yourself with that?

The people you associate yourself with, the more you turn out like them, even if you don’t mean to. You end up picking up traits, and you end up thinking negatively the way they do.

I always think whenever I have to cut people out of my life, no matter how hard it is, I’d rather go through the pain of it now and get it over and done with, than later.

Just believe that you deserve to be happy. Of course you do.

Love,

Louise oxoxo

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Akoma Black Soap, Raw Shea Butter and Detox Shea Butter Soap – First Impressions

Skin

Well Hello Lovelies,

I hope everything is going well for you!

I’m excited to write about these products and I just pray that these products actually work to improve the scars on my skin and to keep my acne at bay.

I ordered:


The African Black Soap made in Ghana. I read a lot about the benefits of using African Black soap, and it has a lot of ingredients which are great for the skin. So I thought to give it a try.


This lathers up lovely, and smells earthy. The scent isn’t strong at all. I was shocked with how well it lathers if I’m honest. I used this along with my African sponge that I ordered on eBay, and it really helped me exfoliate my shoulders where I also have scarring. 

Afterwards, I didn’t feel like it dried up my skin – like it did with others when I’ve read on reviews on black soap – my skin was literally squeaky clean, as in if I rubbed my skin it was completely fresh.
I even liked the feel of it on my skin better than my tea tree soap that I get from Holland and Barrets because the tea tree soap is extremely drying. 


I will say though, I have severe dermatitis on my hand, and the soap did sting my hand.. So maybe any cuts just be mindful of if you do try this soap.


The Detox Shea Butter Soap with Green Clay. It says on the website ___ but I got this because of the benefits of the Shea butter, it’s supposed to brighten your skin and improve the appearance of scars.


I haven’t used his yet because im going to give at least a month using the African black soap, or I might use this twice a week. It smells delicious though it actually reminds me of limes.


I love how it says it removes impurities from the skin, and how it boosts lifeless skin. I’m definitely going to try this soap after using the black soap for at least a month.

Raw Shea Butter – again for the pure reason it’s supposed to help the appearance of scars and improves the appearance of your skin.



Ignore the dents, I was just so eager to try it haha!

I used this after I used the black soap, and it was hard to get out of the container I’m not going to lie, and I wasn’t sure about how much to use because it’s really thick. 

I used about a sploge of it on my face and another on my body and it really does go a long way.

Like I said because it’s raw Shea butter the consistency is thick and it is hard to get out the container, but once you spread it a lot goes a long way. 

My skin feels so smooth after using the Shea butter, and even though it has an earthy smell it still smells lovely.


The reviews online do say it feels heavy to wear during the day, and I would agree. It did feel a little heavy, but if im indoors all day or if I’m not going anywhere major the feeling doesn’t bother me as long as it’s improving my skin.

I’ve read into the use of Shea butter and acne & acne scars, but I sort of put it off. I once ordered raw Shea butter on eBay, but the Shea butter on eBay burned my skin (however I was using an acne treatment at the time, prescribed by the doctor) so it really put me off.

Because I’ve been using the Garnier Cleansing Milk and Toner (read my review here), my acne has actually improved and I’m seeing the texture of my skin and improving too. It’s just the scars that are left which are annoying.

I’ll be writing an up to date review in a months time on these products and I’ll include pictures.

Read my acne scar post here (pictures are included) 

Also here’s the website to have a look at the products they sell. 

If you’ve tried any of these products, please let me know in the comments!

Love,

Louise oxoxo

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Get to Know Me Tag!

Life, Uncategorized

I’ve been bingeing on YouTube, and saw all these tags and thought it’ll be fun to do one for my blog.

I haven’t got a YouTube channel so I thought I’d just do the tag on here.

I mean I haven’t actually been tagged by someone, I’m just doing this out of fun.

At the end I’ll be tagging a few bloggers if they’re happy to participate!

Feel free to tag me in any of these tag questions because I find them so fun to do.

Hope you enjoy.

QUESTIONS:
1. What is your middle name?

Anne. How plain! 

2. Share you favorite subject in high school.

I loved English literature, I love books and I loved reading and analysing Mice and Men.

3. What is your favorite drink?

Tea, I live for tea. Milky and two sugars.

4. What is your favorite song at the moment?

Unforgettable by French Montana ft Swae Lee

5. What would you (or have you) name your children?

Kylan, the original spelling was Kylon and it had such a spiritual meaning when I read up on it. I also love the names Logan, Alias, Amerie, Olivia and Aria.

6. Have you participated in any sports?

I used to love running and would participate in long run in primary school lol! But wasn’t interested in sport what so ever in secondary.

7. What is your favorite book?

My favourite fiction book is ‘The memory keepers daughter’ by Kim Edwards, it’s such an amazing book. And my favourite life changing books are ‘The Secret and The Power’ which are both sequel books by Rhonda Byrnes.

8. What is your favorite color?

Between Beige and Stone.

9. What is your favorite animal?

Elephants.

10. What is your favorite perfume?

Daisy by Marc Jacobs 

11. What is your favorite holiday?

Christmas, I love seeing my son open his presents and the amazing decorations, also the food. Let’s not forget the food.

12. On a scale from 1 – 10, rate your childhood.

8. I had a great upbringing my mom is an amazing woman and we had wonderful days out.

13. Have you been out of the country?

I’ve only been to Spain but I’m hoping to take my little one to different countries when he’s a bit older.

14. Do you speak any different languages?

Unfortunately no!

15. Do you have any siblings?

I have two brothers and one sister.

16. What is your favorite store?

Next for clothes and Aldis for food shopping haha.

17. What is your favorite restaurant?

Frankies & Bennies!

18. Did you like school?

I actually loved school especially on a Thursday when I’d have childcare or English.

19. Who are some of your favorite YouTubers?

Shirley B. Eniang, Chanel Ambrose, Sara K and Bubzvlogz.

20. What is your favorite movie?

The Vow

21. What are some of your favorite tv shows?

The Kardashians, Mob Wives, The Real Housewives of Atlanta and Orange County and Eastenders.

22. PC or mac?

PC 

23. What phone do you have?

iPhone 6

24. How tall are you?

5’6ft and a half!

25. Do you have any pets?

No, but recently our family dog passed away from old age he lived until he was 17 years old! He was such a well loved dog.
Well I hope you enjoyed getting to know me a little bit more.

I’d like to tag: thepearlylife to do this

Hope you’ve enjoyed getting to know me a little better.


Love,

Louise oxoxo

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