I was thinking about my birth experience and a few people at play groups have asked me what my birth was like, so I thought I would write my experience and I’m hoping you’d share yours too!
My due date was the 15th of March 2016, but he arrived on the 22nd of February 2016, he was born just under 4 weeks early bless him.
It was a Monday when he was born, and on the Saturday my family threw me a surprise baby shower.
I had no clue what so ever, so I turned up with no makeup on, with scruffy clothes on and I looked like a hot mess. I was so unhappy because I was extremely uncomfortable and I kept crying on and off that day.
After the baby shower when everyone went, my cousin took one look at me and said “you look like you’re about to cry”. That was it, I started crying my eyes out, I couldn’t stop! I was so upset and uncomfortable. She then said to me “you’re ready to have this baby, I have a feeling you’re in slow labour”.
So on the Monday, my waters broke at 5am.
I woke up in a puddle of water, I was questioning if I actually wet myself, so I popped up to my cousin and told her what had happened etc. She told me to go and wake my mom and that I need to contact the hospital because my labour could move very quickly.
So I woke my mom up. I had no pains what so ever, so we made breakfast and I was convinced that I would be like Kourtney Kardashian, I would be able to gracefully have a shower, pace myself, do my makeup.
No. Pain began to hit. And it was all in my back and it was no joke.
This was around 8am. I had phoned the hospital at 6:30am explaining my waters had gone, and they told me to go to the hospital for 9am If I’m not getting any pains and to my hospital bag because they would keep me in because I was 36 weeks.
So this pain was horrendous. I like to think I have a high pain tolerance level but labour pains are unexplainable.
Every contraction was exhausting from the get go. My back felt like it was breaking.
When we first got to the hospital the midwife said to me “it might be a water infection” I completely lost it and shouted at her to check me because this was definitely not a water infection!
I was 3cm dialated when they checked me. I went to run a bath to help the pain, but I couldn’t get comfortable because of my back.
I had signs a few weeks before of my mucus plug, but during my labour the full show was there.
When I was 5cm that’s when they moved me into a room and that’s when I could use the gas and air which was amazing.
I also had pethadine which made me very sleepy.
Because my blood pressure was so high, and because my little ones heart beat was mimicking mine, I had to be laid on a bed with a monitor on my stomach, a heartbeat monitor on my baby’s head and also someone checking my blood pressure constantly.
When I got to 7cm, every time a contraction was coming my whole body would shake and I’d feel cold. My mom was scared that there was something wrong.
I opted for an epidural at some point and I had the man tell to me about having it and what he was going to do. If I’m honest the pethadine made me so drowsy I kept falling asleep on him and I remember saying “I am listening, I’m just closing my eyes” 😂.
I was very close to having a c-section.
I got to 10cm very quickly, and that’s when I shot up alert. I needed to push!
The midwife tried stopping me before checking me, and my mom stopped me because of what the midwife said.
Because I was strapped to the bed and I couldn’t get up to move, the sensation was so intense I even begged her to let me go to the bathroom.
She checked me, and as I looked at her she was smirking and I knew she could see my baby.
She then gave me the ok to push, so every time she told me to push I did. It was so exhausting but at the same time my body had the urge to push it was such an unexplainable feeling.
When his head came out, I remember when I was pregnant people called this the ring of fire, and I would honestly say that was the second most painful thing in my whole labour, but it didn’t last long.
Soon after his whole body came out and we could hear him cry instantly. My baby was finally born at 1:31pm.
They put him on me for skin to skin and this was the most amazing moment of my whole life.
His eyes opened to take a look at me and I instantly fell in love.
He took his first feed and latched on straight away. It was all amazing, but also very quick because he was drowsy.
A lot of moms said that they needed an injection to deliver their placenta, but my midwife just massaged my stomach and it sort of just came out. I didn’t see it and didn’t want to if I’m honest.
I was examined and was told I needed stiches. I had a lot of grazing and a 2nd degree tear.
They numbed me which was actually the 1st most painful thing in my labour experience because the injections stung severely, and then they stitched me up.
The stitches were uncomfortable but they were the last thing on my mind.
Afterwards they gave me tea and toast and told me that I could get up for a shower. Looking at my stomach flappy, and different now that I had given birth was so weird.
Throughout hospital, I struggled with breastfeeding. I felt that I didn’t get the right support in hospital but I got great support once I got home.
What was your experience when giving birth? Did everything go to plan?
Leave your comments below, I love hearing different experiences.